What is the difference between parenting and child health

The core difference between the two is that their attributes and boundaries are completely different - parenting is a comprehensive parenting practice that covers the entire process of children from birth to adulthood, including daily care, cognitive guidance, character shaping, social ability development, health management and other actions. Children's health is a professional field that specifically focuses on the three-dimensional health status of children's physical, psychological and social adaptability, and is one of the core goals that must be anchored in the parenting process.

The easiest pitfall for many new parents is to equate the two. They either think that raising babies with fewer illnesses and having excellent physical examinations means successful parenting, or they completely ignore the bottom line of health for the sake of chicken babies. In fact, these two ideas are extreme.

I met a father who was engaged in research and development two years ago. Raising a baby is like a project. All complementary foods under 1 year old are weighed according to the nutrition table. The daily outdoor activity time is accurate to the minute. The house is disinfected three times a day. The baby has not been to a public playground until he is 2 and a half years old. Every time the child care is taken, the height and weight, gross and fine sports are measured. The children's health was perfectly cared for, but problems arose in the first month of the daycare: the baby couldn't get along with other children, would lie on the floor and cry when others touched his toys, had to be fed by the teacher even to eat, and would catch colds at the slightest temperature difference. On the contrary, the children got sick twice as often as those children who were usually "free range". In fact, what he focused on before was only physical health, and did not even cover the complete scope of children's health, let alone qualified child care.

Nowadays, the Internet is often arguing about this matter. Most of the older generation think that "parenting is about maintaining the body." If the child can eat, sleep and not make a fuss, everything will be fine. Many young parents, on the other hand, think that as long as the child is not seriously ill, it doesn't matter if the child sleeps less and attends more interest classes. In fact, neither party has figured out the boundary between the two.

To put it bluntly, parenting is like raising a little eagle. You have to feed it enough food, help it comb its feathers, teach it how to fly, how to find food, how to avoid natural enemies, and guide it to adapt to group life. Children's health is like the physical foundation of this little eagle. Without this foundation, it can't fly at all, but you only feed it every day and never teach it flying skills. In the end, it can only be a chicken that only walks on the ground.

I have been a family parenting coach for almost 7 years and have contacted hundreds of families. When first consulting, many parents will ask, "My child is always sick, is it because I have failed in parenting?" In fact, this is not necessarily true. For example, some children with congenital allergies may be more likely to develop rhinitis than other children, no matter how meticulously you take care of them. As long as the child is emotionally stable, interacts well with family members, and has social skills, then the child care is qualified. On the contrary, if you confine your child at home and prevent him from contacting the outside world in order to prevent him from getting sick, in the end it will cause problems with the child's social adaptability. That is picking up sesame seeds and losing the watermelon.