Can we have sex after recovering from childbirth

There is no unified standard answer to whether sexual intercourse is allowed during the postpartum recovery period. The core depends on the mother's physical recovery state and psychological acceptance. Don't get stuck on the so-called "confinement period" and "42 days".

Generally speaking, the 42-day puerperium is a clinical reference cut-off. During this period, the endometrium is gradually repaired and lochia is basically eliminated. Most mothers who give birth naturally without tearing and lateral incision and are in good recovery condition can basically have normal intercourse if there are no abnormalities in the 42-day review. But if you are a mother with side incision, laceration wound, or cesarean section, the recovery period will naturally be longer. After all, it may only take more than ten days for the superficial wound to grow, but the deep muscle layer and uterine incision must grow strong, and two or three months is not a long time.

I went with my cousin who had just given birth for a postpartum check-up a while ago. She had a slight tear. The doctor said she was recovering well, the lochia was gone, and there was no problem with intercourse. However, she tried it at home and still felt a slight pain in her lower abdomen, which she stopped immediately. It took another half a month for her to feel no discomfort at all. It can be seen that what the doctor said is only a general reference, and individual differences are much greater than everyone thinks.

At this point, some people will definitely mention that the elderly in the family require a hundred days before they can have sex, and they say that if they are too early, they will suffer from confinement syndrome. This statement is actually not without purpose. In the past, nutritional conditions were poor, and mothers had to do housework after giving birth. The recovery speed was generally slow, and the hundred-day cycle was more stable. Now, although it is not so stuck, if you feel uneasy, there is nothing wrong with taking a longer period of time. There is no need to force yourself to make time.

In fact, in addition to the hard indicators of physical recovery, the fitness of mental state cannot be ignored. Many mothers have just given birth and stayed up all night to take care of the baby. Their hormone levels have not yet returned to a stable state. Let alone having sex, it is annoying for their husbands to come over and hug them. At this time, it would be really hurtful to insist that "everyone else is like this" and "it's time".

By the way, even if you really feel that you are physically and mentally ready, you must slow down your movements and lubricate yourself for the first time, and the most important thing is to use contraception! Don't believe the nonsense that you won't get pregnant if you don't have your period during lactation. My cousin fell into this trap back then. The eldest child got pregnant unexpectedly when she was just six months old. She had a cesarean section, and the uterine incision hadn't grown firmly yet, so she had to abort it. She suffered the same fate. Don't worry if the lochia has not been completely discharged. At this time, the cervix is ​​not completely closed, and it is easy for the intercourse to bring bacteria in, which can induce pelvic inflammatory disease and endometritis, which will actually slow down the recovery progress, and the gain outweighs the gain.

To put it bluntly, this is never a task that "must be completed at the right time". The couple should communicate more and put the mother's feelings first, which is more reliable than any common standards.